Christine Kane is my mentor and business coach this year. I love the way that she is so insightful and can get right to the problem using words and language that it easy to understand and easy apply to your own life.
Christine talks a lot about our “dirt” – the crappy stuff that comes to us sometimes out of no-where just when we think our life is right on track. But dealing with our “dirt” is a necessary step on our journey and can be our greatest teacher.
You can find out more about Christine and the programs she offers here on her website, but also please enjoy this article written by her
When Your Dirt Comes Up: 7 Ways to Break Through the Resistance and Break Out the Results
by Christine Kane
A mentor of mine used to say that when a seed is planted, the first thing that comes up is NOT a sprout. The first thing that comes up is a little dirt. That’s because when someone sets an intention for herself, the very first thing that happens is a “clearing out.”
Our spirits are literally moving into alignment with our new intention by clearing out anything unlike that intention.
Unfortunately, this is where most people get stuck and why nothing changes. They don’t know what to do when the dirt comes up.
Well, take heart! I’m the queen of setting new intentions – and yes, breaking through the dirt! And below is my list of 7 things to do to help you break through the resistance and break out the results!
1 – Call on Your Observer
The observer is the ever-present part of you that can objectively witness your reactions in any situation and recognize when you are lost in your “stuff.” The observer is never judgmental. It is peaceful. It is wise.
When you consistently call on your observer, you come to know your needs intimately. For instance, some “dirty” moments might require that you step away from your desk and take a walk in the woods and stop thinking or doing anything. Other moments might be best served by simply choosing a better thought.
Knowing the difference is about knowing the self. Not in a narcissistic way. In an honest clear way.
2 – Feel a little bit better
You don’t have to make yourself go from feeling awful to feeling “GRRREAT!” All you need to focus on is feeling a little bit better than you do. This releases a lot of pressure.
3 – Get Back to Basics
You may need to get back to basics with your intention. For instance, if too much dirt is coming up – you might need to shift your intention from being a gajillionaire to being worthy at all!
Sometimes people get totally excited by the notion of “Yes! Law of Attraction! I can do anything!” So they begin with the BIG affirmation. Then when the dirt comes up, there’s so very much of it that they don’t know where to begin.
Safety, worthiness, compassion, kindness, beauty, being loved and adored – these are beautiful concepts for beginners – AND for moments when the dirt arises.
4 – Try “Petri Dish Mindset”
Remind yourself that your whole life can be an experiment. When it comes to transformation and goals, put your life in a petri dish. Have a little fun with that idea. Say things like, “Hmmmm. I wonder what would happen if I really simply focused on _________.”
5 – Containerize
Containerizing is an Intention-Within-Intention process.
If you need to talk out your fears or your negativity, then create the intention to containerize for a while. This is an off-limits “no longer creating my reality” container.
Call a friend and explain that you need a listening ear. Explain that he is not allowed to feel sorry for you or give advice. He is not to give any “power” to your story. He is there to allow the container to happen. You just need to let it out. You can also do the same in your journal. Let it all out there. Then let it go.
6 – Lose the Story
If emotions are coming up, try this.
Sit still and let the emotions be there without the story that has attached itself to them. Feel sad and allow the sadness, but make sure that the story of “how awful my co-workers are because they never invite me to lunch!” isn’t part of the sadness. Most of the time, it will move through and out.
7 – Get help
Some people think I’m crazy to pay for a coach. Or to pay out-of-pocket for alternative healing modalities. I, however, know the truth. These healers are my guiding lights and objective observers – always seeing my radiance, always trusting my process. I do the same for my clients!
We have this messed-up belief in our world that we should be able to take a pill and move on with things. (Huh-uh!) Reach out and get some help. And remember that this work takes time. In fact, it will always be happening as long as you’re alive! (Isn’t that cool?)
Christine Kane is the Mentor to Women Who are Changing the World. She helps women uplevel their lives, their businesses and their success. Her weekly LiveCreative eZine goes out to over 20,000 subscribers. If you are ready to take your life and your world to the next level, you can sign up for a F.R.E.E. subscription at http://christinekane.com.
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